Desires

The holidays are stressful. There are the challenges of too much family, not enough family, not enough money, continual exposure to food and alcohol, and perhaps worst of all, the gap between our actual life and our fantasy life. As if gazing into the perfect happy scene within a snowglobe, we might fall into a trance of how our life should be.
We might feel torn apart by nostalgia and grief over the good times and good people of the past, and wracked with guilt and inadequacy for failing to create a more wonderful life for ourselves. We might feel scared about our dissatisfaction and hypnotized by the promise of fulfillment just beyond the hard glass.
Addictive and codependent behaviors thrive during this season of fantasy.

We use our drugs and habits to escape the pain, while imagining how we will miraculously make changes, always tomorrow, or next week, or next year. We frantically try to keep our idea of the all-good holiday alive through our codependent behaviors, imagining that we have the power to make sure that everyone else is happy and no one gets upset, while suppressing our own feelings of anger and disappointment.


We can watch our relationships with alcohol, marijuana, cigarettes, chewing tobacco, prescription and non-prescription drugs, gambling, video games, television or Internet videos, social media, food, exercise, work, and shopping. We can ask ourselves: How much are we using? How much of our time does it consume? How much money are we spending on our habits? How long have we been using? Is it increasing, decreasing, or remaining constant?
We can watch our relationships with our loved ones. We can ask ourselves: How much of our energy is being devoted to worrying about or trying to control other people’s addictive behaviors? How much are we being controlled by fear of others’ reactions to our boundaries or limits?

How are our habits affecting our physical health? How are our behaviors affecting our relationships with others? How are our drugs, habits, or relationship patterns affecting our work life? What are the short- and long-term benefits and costs?
As we watch and explore our behaviors in an open and neutral manner, we set the stage for our growth toward increased health. We emerge into the New Year with information about ourselves that we need in order to develop a plan of action, if we so choose, toward change. And by being more honest with ourselves and more present in the life we currently are living, we have broken the paralyzing spell of fantasy: We have begun moving toward a better life.
By By Danielle B. Grossman, MFT

Cosmic Ordering is the belief that, with the power of spiritual thinking you will be able to gain everything that your heart truly desires, simply by asking the Cosmos. By connecting with the Cosmos and expressing your deepest desires, they can actually become a reality. To assist you with this process follow the cosmic ordering guide below for some ideas on how to convey your wishes to the cosmos.

Cosmic Ordering is attributed to the New Age Movement and focuses heavily on spirituality and the power of positive thinking. Connecting with your inner-self is of great importance and plays a fundamental part in placing a cosmic order.

Although not a brand new idea, the whole idea has gained in popularity recently with many celebrities also becoming intrigued by the notion. Some famous names have actually vocalised their success stories with the rest of the world and are sincere in their belief that their success is a direct result of placing a cosmic order.

Although not difficult to comprehend, this process does require following some key principals which are invaluable in assisting you to work towards tuning into your inner-self and achieving a positive thinking process.

Firstly, actually picture what your heart truly desires. Your true wish could be something as mundane as a pay-rise or could be as spiritual as the health of someone close to you. Picture your desire and feel it. Think about it with positivity and depth.

The second key principle is extremely important and that is to ensure your order is positive, pleasant and personal to you. Placing an order for a negative, nasty or vengeful happening could backfire on you. Keep your thoughts positive and your request beneficial to you.

The next step is to actually place the order and the way in which this occurs is completely down to the individual. Some people initiate their own service at a sacred spot. Others simply write down their request on a piece of paper and wrap this around an artifact of their choice. However you choose to do this, it would be beneficial to go to a place which is quiet and brings about a spiritual glow, a happy place that is close to you heart. Some people feel that it helps to write it down and then recite the request over and over, some on a daily basis until they feel positive that change could occur.

Finally, another key factor is to actually believe in the power of the cosmos and that you will achieve success. Allow for positive thinking and disperse any negative thoughts or anxious feelings you may have about the whole procedure and whether or not it does indeed work. Just picture positive things and wait for them to transpire.

Following this cosmic ordering guide will definitely place you on the right path to achieving your hearts desire. When you truly desire something and consider yourself deserving of it and trust that the cosmos could deliver it to you, then the universe will not let you down.